Collaborative Law

Is it true what they say - that it is not divorce itself, but the way that parties divorce, that takes the heaviest toll.          

It is a sad fact of life, but divorce is here to stay.  The most recent statistics suggest that almost one in three of UK marriages will end in failure.

The real cost of relationship breakdown is not merely financial but also in the personal and emotional turmoil that so often accompanies the end of relationships.  A bad divorce can leave lasting scars; not just on the two parties involved, but on their children and on their extended family and support network too.

Imagine a situation in which one party can sit down, together with their former partner, and their respective solicitors, and commit to sorting it out together.  The parties can share their hopes, aspirations, expectations and even their fears, and the four of them work together to create an agreement with which the parties concur.  The parties emerge from the process ready to get on with the rest of their lives without the bitterness and unresolved anger that so often accompanies the divorce process.

The approach is called collaborative law, and for many couples and their children, it is proving the very best way forward.

So how does it work?  To start with, everyone enters a written agreement not to go to Court. The couple set the agenda and work at the pace at which they feel comfortable.  Neither feels as if they are being dragged helplessly along a legal conveyor belt and there is certainty in the end result without the fear of a Judge making an order that neither party agrees with as can often happen in a Court process.

It sends out remarkably positive signals to any children involved, which benefit hugely from knowing that their parents are working out their differences together.

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